Getting married at home, but you’re living three states away? It all sounds so great when you first start planning; all your friends and family will be there because they’re local, you can use the same florist that made your high school corsages, your mom’s best friend knows the best caterer. Things seemed to be practically planning themselves…
Until you realized that the florist that made your high school corsages doesn’t know how to make the boho bouquet you’ve been dreaming of… and it turns out the caterer your mom’s best friend knows has been out of business since 1999. No worries though. This is still 100% doable and I’m going to give you a few tips to make it easier.
There is nothing worse than paying a hefty deposit for a vendor then meeting with them and realizing they are nothing like what you thought. Meeting each vendor in person is a big task even if you do live locally, but luckily for you, we live in the age where everyone has a smart phone or access to a computer and video calls are suuuuper easy to get scheduled. Don’t feel bad about asking for these, most vendors are happy to meet beforehand and a video call makes it even easier to fit in the schedule.
Should you be best friends with every vendor? No, but you want to make sure they have a solid understanding of your vision and have the reviews to back up that they are capable of pulling it off. Vendors that you should feel comfortable with are; your wedding planner, photographer, videographer, and make-up artist. These are the vendors you will have the most one on one time with on your wedding day and the dynamics between you can really affect the atmosphere of the day. You don’t have to be best friends with them, but you should feel comfortable and able to relax with them present.
Make a blitz wedding planning weekend where you visit each of the venues you’re considering and schedule tastings for any caterers/bakers that you are considering. Video calls go a long way, but there’s nothing like actually being at the venue or actually tasting the food… and who wants to miss the cake tasting?! That’s practically the best part of getting married! 😉
Plus, this is a great chance to get away with your hubby-to-be and enjoy your new ‘engaged’ status!
There is nothing worse than all h-e-double hockey sticks breaking out two weeks before your wedding with you being 3 states away and unable to break away from work to handle it (you’ve got to save those vacations days for your honeymoon!). A local wedding planner will not only be able to point you in the right direction for the best local vendors to fit your vision but she (or he!) can handle a lot of the tasks that would have you frazzled at best, and chugging wine like it’s a juice box, at worst. A good wedding planner is worth their weight in gold and will hands down be one of your best investments for your sanity and future marriage 😉
And just remember, no matter what happens, at the end of the day you’ll still be married to the love of your life. And that is worth celebrating.
Hi! I’m Ashley Sue, a Charlotte based Piedmont and High Country Wedding Photographer specializing in capturing the moments in between the posing. I would describe myself as energetic, optimistic, and a perpetual romantic.
While I have photographed weddings nationwide from simple church ceremonies to elaborate ballroom receptions; my authentic + joyful style shines brightest in outdoor locations such as the Blue Ridge mountains of Asheville, NC and architecturally rich surroundings of Charlotte, North Carolina (and Paris. Always, always, always Paris.).
I am available for travel world-wide + have my passport ready. Contact me today to book your family portrait, headshot or 2018 wedding.
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